When it comes to mentoring some people have to be held by the hand and that is okay. Why? Because each person is different. No, I’m not talking about an obsessive, egotistical, excessively needy person who feeds off attention for attention’s sake. Or that person who is the center of attention even if its negative attention. Sorry. I’m talking about that group of people who are between the losers and the winners. That’s the group that usually gets overlooked and cast aside because they are not there yet after all those years, failures and dollars spent on another “business opportunity.” These are the folks who need the most consideration because they just need a little more help and support to see it through. So what, we abandon them after we make money off of them, well that’s a theory. But it doesn’t serve you or them because whatever a person does good or bad does come back to its source for payment.
Life is give and take, it also is a business transaction. Be good to your customers and they will remember you and be loyal. Same with folks who join MLM companies, buy into business opportunities, systems, programs and the like. Be good to them and the majority will do the same. “We make a living by what we get. We make a life by what we give”, Winston Churchill said that and he wasn’t even a businessman. Mentoring is giving.
We’ve all heard of the radio station WIFM: that’s ‘what’s in it for me’. A lot of us solely focus on this point and never look back. So when we make it (by whatever means necessary for some folks), a majority keep this viewpoint and begin to treasure it because in their mind it leads to bigger and better things. “Hell, I made it why can’t you?” A lot of this is justification, but if they look back honestly they see invisible people who did help them along the way, but they forget. Sometimes when your mentor helps you or anybody else for that matter there is something in it for them and sometimes not, but that is not their motive.
Certain people just live a life of giving, it’s in their makeup. They’re not paupers or martyrs; they know the difference, but they also know the benefits of serving, helping and contributing to others. This is what truly makes these type of people great and be emulated. The world, our society, our families needs more of this – we need more of this especially in business because when you break it down business is all about relationships with money, profits, products, and/or services.
Mentoring benefits can boil down to about six things which also show the basis of giving; for one, it feels good, two – you give to get back, three – it builds loyalty and friendships between people, four – it increases your personal power, five – giving without recognition increases your personal power supernaturally, six – it will definitely improve and increase you spiritually. The key or I should say one of the keys in all of this is to not give what you want, but to give what is needed.
That’s practicing arrogance because you have the means (time, money, knowledge, etc. but you don’t really care deeply to empty yourself by being selfless to really give what the person needs. You might be one of those people who think if I give a lot or all I won’t have any left for myself. Or they’ll become richer than me, or they’ll know more than me, or, or ,or, (by the way this is ‘the either/or mentality’ and there isn’t enough to go around philosophy).
True giving means giving to those that need something and to those that don’t need something, because giving is giving. Mentoring is giving. Mentors, don’t think your prospects who become part of your company, program or system aren’t worthy enough of your time, make time. They put you where you are today. They are worthy of your gift. True, some are not, but that’s decided on a case by case basis – fair enough?
Mentors, don’t believe helping your people is beneath you because you have given already – it never stops unless you die or quit. The Universe is always giving to you, it never takes a holiday.
Mentors, be more so you can give more. It won’t go wasted. Allowing access to you, giving some of your heart away, does increase your vulnerability but in the long run it increases your gifts and talents that nobody can take away.
Mentoring is giving. It’s a gift that keeps giving because that person you took the time to explain, show, walk through, walk through it again, prove it, categorized it, classified it, telephoned again, emailed again, telephoned, skyped, YouTube again – that person will one day become a mentor and through your example and the standard you have set will be a very good if not excellent mentor to a whole bunch of up and coming entrepreneurs. Once again, mentoring is giving.
Here’s a gift to you – do you know what the difference between a present and a gift is? They both mean something given to someone without expectation of receiving something in return – but when giving a present to somebody it usually means the person didn’t really ask for what you gave him. Whereas, a gift is exactly what the person wanted and asked for and you gave it to her. So become a gift-giver, it won’t hurt
What you’re looking for is what you’re looking with,
Yours to you, and for you until next time,
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